True Friendship Erases Race

I lost TWO WHITE DUDES named, Bruce Plesser and Reed Sawyer a year apart in the very recent past. They were not just business partners and friends. They were not just friends or White friends or whatever the heck people label people as... To be candid, as human beings, we are all FULL OF SHIT at times w/ our labels and name callings etc.

Bruce Plesser

Reed Sawyer

Anyhow, they used to call me regularly. Everyone who knows me would know that I am not a caller. And I hardly stay in touch w/ anyone. It's a coping mechanism developed from leaving my parents at a young age. Heck, I did not even call my own parents often and I still don't call my own kids a lot. I do text them though. When my father had Dementia, he asked me to find his busy son who hardly calls and tell him to call his father. So there you have it, I am admitting my flaw publicly unlike many of you who think that you're flawless. Sure, you are!

Anyhow, these two men (who happen to be White) would call me nearly daily for nearly two decades. They were not only FRIENDS, but they had also become FAMILY. Did I always agree with them or vice versa, of course NOT. But we had amazing yet respectful debates that ended up in laughter and a more respectful relationship.

Eventually, we did understand each other's past and did know that despite the flaws induced by our varying experiences, we were essentially DECENT HUMAN BEINGS. To many of you, they were just 2 White dudes. Many of you even asked me to UNFRIEND REED based on some of his political comments. EVEN SIBLINGS can have rivalries, but make no mistake about IT, I LOVED BRUCE and REED like I loved my own FLESH and BLOOD.

My only regret is I never got to EXPRESS to them JUST HOW MUCH I really loved them. I know that they knew. But I don't think they know just how much I had grown to RESPECT and LOVE THEM!

If you still have the opportunity to tell someone that you love how much you love them, PLEASE, don't hesitate to do so, else, all you'll have is REGRETS.

Clearly, I'm still MOURNING. I am a FUNCTIONAL MOURNER, but I know that I'm STRUGGLING w/ their deaths. I'm not STUPID, I know I am!

ONE LAST THING... Please stop this RACISM BS America and Donald J. Trump. Please stop it. It's robbing REGULAR PEOPLE of so much more meaningfulness. I'm living proof that we can co-exist with human beings from ALL WALKS OF LIFE. I have lived with and dated human beings from all walks of life. Yes, there are some cultural, genetic and physiological differences, but in the end, the emotions, and life goals and expectations are 99% similar.

We all want to live a PURPOSEFUL and HAPPY LIFE. We all want to feel LOVED and APPRECIATED. We all deserved to be LOVED by someone out there. I think in the end, both men died alone. Reed while taking care of his 95-year-old mother but alone without a mate and Bruce alone without his only daughter.

MORAL OF THE STORY:

Cherish your relationships. Keep your loved ones close. Share wisdoms and tell them how much you love them as often as you humanly can. Else, all you'll be left with is REGRETS!

RIP, BUDS!

I love you both!

Missing you both painfully!

IN A RUSH~

~ Pete

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